Sex educators Rachel Dart and Marshall Miller visited the University of Connecticut Monday night to present their program, “I Love the Female Orgasm,” in the Student Union Theater. SUBOG hosted the event.
While the audience waited for the show to begin, the UConn Sexperts gave away safe sex supplies, candy and abstinence kits. The theater was filled with the music of what Dart and Miller called “hand-picked collection of female O songs.” Their not-so-subtle selections included “Partition” by Beyonce and “I Touch Myself” by the Divinyls.
Dart and Miller commenced the program with what they called one of their “favorite movie clips,” a scene from “When Harry Met Sally” in which the female lead fakes an incredibly convincing orgasm in order to prove what a common occurrence it is amongst women.
The purpose of the show, Dart and Miller said, was to provide an opportunity for the audience to laugh and talk about a subject that they don’t often get to discuss; female sexuality. The program was inclusive to both those who were assigned as females at birth, as well as anyone who identifies as a woman. Dart and Miller playfully provided pictures of various genital-shaped vegetables to illustrate these possibilities.
Once the introductions were over, Dart and Miller gleefully jumped into the sex talk.
“What are some things you’ve heard about having orgasms?” Dart said. Answers ranged from the expected, “you have to be relaxed to have one” to the more colorful “it feels like you have to pee.”
Dart and Miller also provided various orgasm tips on screen throughout the program, including “befriend your vulva” and “touch yourself by yourself.”
About half way through the show, Dart and Miller split up the audience. Women stayed in the theater with Dart, while Miller took the men to Student Union room 330.
The men’s group discussed where they’d originally learned about female sexuality, as well as the importance of communication. Most of the men, it turns out, learned about the female body in the classroom where more focus is placed on internal anatomy than sex.
“No one is going to ask you to stroke their fallopian tubes,” Miller said.
The women’s group shared the predominantly negative attitudes they had encountered about female masturbation while growing up, as well as their first orgasm stories. They also made a list of things that they thought could help a woman reach an orgasm. Emphasis was placed on the importance of foreplay and communication.
“Communication – it can be fun, it can be sexy, and it’s very important,” Dart said.
The final portion of the program focused on actual tips for achieving the female orgasm. This included in depth information on the location and importance of the clitoris and g-spot, as well as how to stimulate them. Vibrators and other methods of female masturbation were also discussed, and Dart and Miller even dared to tackle the often-puzzling issue of female ejaculation.
A second performance of “I Love the Female Orgasm” will be held at 7 p.m. Tuesday night in the Student Union Theater.